Ask Kristy @ AdultTransgenderPersonals.Com - Transgender TV/TS and Shemale Advice

Hi! Welcome to my forum where you ask the questions.

I'll answer your questions the best I can. Please submit your questions and I'll select some of those along with my answers to be published here.

I don't always have time to respond to every question individually, but I do so when I can. Nothing is off-limits here. If you have always wanted to know something about transsexuals, but didn't know who to ask, give me a try.

Mark from San Diego asks, What is the difference between a shemale and a transsexual?

Oh Mark, you need to know that most of us hate the term shemale. It is a term that seems to have originated in the adult porn industry. I think most of us transgendered grrls feel the term is rather degrading. If you don't believe me, go into a transgendered chatroom and watch for the occasional guys who enter and start asking where the shemales are. They are usually flamed or ignored entirely. Most of you know that a transsexual is a person who feels intensely that they were born the wrong sex, do not identify with their biological gender and seek reassignment therapy including hormone replacement and sometimes gender reassignment surgery. Transgendered is a term that has gained increasing popularity over the past 10 or so years. It encompasses a broader group of people on the gender continuum. It is true that some of us transgendered grrls don't mind being called shemales, but be cautious. Some transgendered grrls will become downright nasty, considering it an insult to be called a shemale. When you don't know what someone prefers to be called, it is possibly best to simply refer to them as transgendered until you can politely ask what they consider themselves to be. Internet marketers, and indeed this site, find themselves using the term shemales whether they like it or not, because it is such a popular search term. So you see, it all boils down to personal preferences when you're dealing with someone from the transgendered community. Labels can be a tricky thing to apply. Sometimes it's best to let others choose what label they prefer.

Luis from Las Vegas asks, Do you intend to have surgery to complete your transformation?

Luis, I really haven't decided the answer to that question. I suspect that I will not have surgery though. I have adapted nicely to a female role and I am on hormone replacement therapy. I am happy with the changes I have achieved, but never was so eager to forge ahead with surgery. I have often considered surgical gender reassignment as an option, but so far, I'm content with life and I enjoy myself as is.

Hi Leeza, I primarily date guys, but I've been known to date a girl or two, and I've also dated other transgendered grrls, but that tends to get kind of confusing. You'll find that transgendered grrls each have their own preferences. While I consider myself to be bisexual, many consider themselves to be straight, gay or lesbian. It's about as clear as mud, huh?

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